I have been at this church three years and I still feel like a visitor. Is that a good enough reason to leave?

“Yea, the sparrow hath found an house, and the swallow a nest for herself, where she may lay her young, even thine altars, O LORD of hosts, my King, and my God.”

Psalm 84 was written by someone kept away from the temple and aching for it. In the middle of that longing he notices the birds nesting in the building itself, thoroughly at home there while he is outside looking in. The psalm holds both things at once, the belonging he can see and the distance he feels, and it never once suggests the ache is a failure of faith.

“To whom coming, as unto a living stone, disallowed indeed of men, but chosen of God, and precious, Ye also, as lively stones, are built up a spiritual house, an holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices, acceptable to God by Jesus Christ.”

Peter wrote to believers scattered across Asia Minor who were strangers everywhere they lived, and he told them they were being built into a house made of people. The verb carries the weight: built, over time, by somebody else's hands. Stones do not attach themselves. Still feeling like a visitor after three years is worth taking seriously, and it is also worth asking whether anyone has been given a real chance to build you in.