There are people at my church who make me feel judged for my past and the way I live now. How do I deal with that?

“Now Hannah, she spake in her heart; only her lips moved, but her voice was not heard: therefore Eli thought she had been drunken. And Eli said unto her, How long wilt thou be drunken? put away thy wine from thee. And Hannah answered and said, No, my lord, I am a woman of a sorrowful spirit: I have drunk neither wine nor strong drink, but have poured out my soul before the LORD.”

Hannah was praying through the worst grief of her life, silently, at the tabernacle. Eli the priest watched her lips moving and concluded she was drunk. The most spiritually respectable man in the room read the most desperate person in the room completely wrong. Scripture records the misjudgment rather than covering it, and it records Hannah answering him plainly and staying rather than walking out.

“Who art thou that judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand.”

Paul was writing to a church divided over food and holy days, where each side was quietly sure the other was a lesser Christian. His question cuts the ground from under both of them: whose servant is this person, and who is actually responsible for whether they stand? It does not make the judging stop. It does put it back into proportion, which is roughly what you need on the drive home.