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Family & Parenting

We are new parents and we feel completely isolated. Does a church community actually help with something like this?


Old TestamentPsalm 68:6

God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.

The psalm is a processional song celebrating God's march through the wilderness, and tucked into a list of what he does is the line that he sets the solitary in families. The Hebrew pictures God placing people into households, deliberately, as an act of provision. Isolation is treated here as a condition God moves people out of, and the means he generally uses is other people rather than a change of feeling.

New TestamentActs 2:46

And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,

Luke's description of the earliest church is startlingly domestic. They were in the temple, yes, but they were also in one another's houses eating together daily. The community that turned the ancient world upside down ran largely on shared meals in ordinary homes. That is a form of church life a couple with a newborn can genuinely take part in.


A path forward

  1. Say yes to the next offer of help and be specific about what you need. New parents refuse help reflexively and then feel abandoned. Asking someone to bring dinner on Thursday is a gift to a person who wants to be useful and does not know how.

  2. Go to church even when you will spend most of it in the corridor with a crying baby. The point in this season is being seen and known, not absorbing the sermon, and the sermon will keep.

  3. Find one other couple roughly six months ahead of you and ask them out. Advice from people whose children are grown is often unusable. Advice from someone still in the middle of it is worth ten of those.


Closing verse

And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works: Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.

- Hebrews 10:24-25

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