Family & Parenting
Everyone has an opinion about where our kids should go to school and my spouse and I cannot agree. How do we decide?
“I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.”
David writes this psalm after a long stretch of hiding sin and then finally confessing it, and God's response is a promise to instruct and to guide. The imagery is of a teacher keeping an eye on a student rather than a rulebook handed over at the door. It suggests guidance is relational and ongoing, which is more useful than a formula when the decision in front of you is genuinely open.
“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”
James tells believers under pressure to ask God for wisdom, and adds that God gives generously without reproaching anyone for having asked. The promise is specifically about wisdom, not about outcomes and not about certainty. It is an offer of a better mind for a hard decision, rather than a guarantee that the decision will turn out to have been the easy one.
A path forward
Write down what your particular child needs rather than which schooling model you believe in. The right answer often differs between siblings, which is a strong sign that the question is about children rather than ideology.
Set a decision date and stop consulting people after it. Endless input from relatives and church friends tends to produce anxiety rather than clarity, because none of them are accountable for the outcome.
Pray about it together as a couple before you discuss it again, and agree out loud that you will own the decision jointly whichever way it goes. A united front matters more to your children than the school does.
Closing verse
“And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.”
- Isaiah 30:21
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