My brother died and everyone keeps asking how my parents are holding up. Nobody asks about me. How do I grieve a sibling?

“Then came there unto him all his brethren, and all his sisters, and all they that had been of his acquaintance before, and did eat bread with him in his house: and they bemoaned him, and comforted him over all the evil that the LORD had brought upon him: every man also gave him a piece of money, and every one an earring of gold.”

At the very end of Job, his brothers and sisters and everyone who had known him before come to the house, eat with him, and sit with him over everything he has been through. It is a small, almost administrative detail after forty chapters of argument. Yet the book chooses to end its restoration with siblings around a table rather than with an explanation of what happened.

“Then when Mary was come where Jesus was, and saw him, she fell down at his feet, saying unto him, Lord, if thou hadst been here, my brother had not died. When Jesus therefore saw her weeping, and the Jews also weeping which came with her, he groaned in the spirit, and was troubled,”

Mary and Martha had lost their brother, and John records that when Jesus saw Mary weeping he groaned in the spirit and was troubled. The Greek is strong, closer to anger than to sympathy. He is not composed at the grave of a friend's brother. John wants his readers to see how seriously heaven takes the death of a sibling, even a death he is about to reverse.