Salvation & Grace
I came to faith and my husband did not. I carry a quiet dread about where he stands with God and I have no idea what to do with it.
“The secret things belong unto the LORD our God: but those things which are revealed belong unto us and to our children for ever, that we may do all the words of this law.”
Moses is finishing his address to a generation about to enter the land, and he draws a line between what God has disclosed and what he has kept to himself. The secret things are not withheld in order to torment anyone. The verse marks the boundary of your responsibility: you are accountable for what you have been shown, and another person's standing before God sits on the far side of that line.
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.”
Peter is writing to Christians scattered across hostile territory, including women whose husbands did not share their faith and who held almost no social power in the marriage. His counsel is strikingly quiet: a life observed at close range over years, rather than argument. He is not telling them to hide their faith. He is telling them what actually reaches someone who has stopped listening to words.
A path forward
Pray for him daily by name, briefly, and stop debating him. Choose one and hold to it for three months, because doing both at once tends to poison the marriage.
Ask him once, without pressure, what he actually thinks and what put him off. Then listen without correcting him. Most people have never once been asked.
Take the dread to God specifically rather than carrying it silently, and tell one trusted friend at church that you are carrying it. This is far too heavy to hold alone for years.
Closing verse
“For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?”
- 1 Corinthians 7:16
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