Temptation
We are getting married in eight months anyway. Does waiting still mean anything at this point?
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
This line closes the creation account and is the Bible's foundational description of marriage: a public leaving, a binding, and then union, in that order. The sequence is doing real work, since the leaving and the covenant come first and the union follows them. Ancient marriage was a matter of family and community witness rather than private feeling, so the order was never treated as decorative.
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
Hebrews closes with short, practical instructions to a pressured community, and this one is unusually positive. Marriage is to be held in honor by everyone, including the unmarried, and the marriage bed is called undefiled rather than merely tolerated. The New Testament's sexual ethic is not suspicion of desire but a very high estimate of what covenant does to it.
A path forward
Talk about it now rather than at midnight, and decide together what you both want these eight months to have been when you look back. Two people with a shared decision hold a line one person defending a rule cannot.
Consider whether the wedding actually needs to be eight months away. Bringing the date forward is a legitimate, unromantic solution that plenty of couples have quietly used.
Ask a pastor to take you through premarital counseling and raise this specifically in the room. It is a normal conversation there, and one honest outside voice takes pressure off you both.
Closing verse
“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”
- 1 Corinthians 6:18
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