Anger & Conflict

My fuse has got really short lately. Small things set me off and I do not like who I am becoming. Where do I start?

I was taught that anger is sin, so every time I feel it I feel guilty on top of it. Is being angry actually wrong?

When I lose my temper at home I watch my family go quiet and careful around me. That is not who I want to be. How do I change it?

I do not shout, I go cold. I say I am fine and then punish people quietly for days. I know it is dishonest, but saying it out loud feels like starting a fight.

I am a different person behind the wheel. I swear at strangers over nothing and feel ridiculous ten seconds later. Why does driving bring that out of me?

I raise my voice when I am frustrated and people flinch. My partner says the shouting is worse than whatever I am shouting about. Is yelling really that serious?

In an argument I always have the perfect cutting line ready, and I always use it. How do I hold my tongue in the moment instead of firing back?

I am not a shouter, but when I am stretched thin I get sharp and clipped with people and they can tell. How do I stop taking it out on whoever is nearest?

I get wound up by tiny things: a tone, a look, a message that is too short. Then I start an argument about it. How do I stop being so easily offended?

There is someone I have to deal with every week who grates on me constantly. I cannot avoid them and I cannot seem to be decent about them either.

There is someone I genuinely do not like and I am not going to start liking them any time soon. Is it enough to act well toward them while I feel nothing?

I am supposed to pray for someone who treated me badly and the words stick in my throat. How do you pray for a person when part of you still wants them to suffer?

People keep telling me to love my enemies. Does that mean letting someone who keeps hurting me straight back into my life? Where is the line?

When someone comes at me aggressively my instinct is to give it straight back, and it escalates every single time. How do I respond differently in the moment?

Someone wronged me and I have said nothing for months. I keep telling myself I am being gracious, but really I am avoiding it and it is eating me.

A friend told me something hard about myself and I spent the whole conversation defending myself. I know they were partly right. How do I take criticism without going to war?

I am ready to make peace and the other person is not interested. How long do I keep reaching out before I let it go?

There is a bad atmosphere in my church between two groups and I keep getting pulled into it. How do I address it, and when should I just stay out of it?

Every time my family gets together it ends in a row over the same old ground. I dread it now. How do I go in without becoming part of it?

Someone has been saying things about me that are not true and people believe them. I want to go and set the record straight, hard. What do I do with this?

I am in a dispute that is heading toward lawyers and I want to win it. Is it wrong for a Christian to take someone to court, or am I allowed to fight this?

There is someone who steamrolls me every time and I never manage to say no. Afterwards I am furious, mostly at myself. How do I actually hold my ground?

Someone at work has made me a target: the comments, the exclusion, the digs. I am angry all the time and I cannot tell whether to fight back or keep my head down.

We have not spoken properly in weeks because neither of us will be the one to give in first. I know it is ridiculous and I still cannot make myself move.

I keep replaying an old argument in my head, winning it every time with better lines. It has been months. How do I stop rehearsing this?

I have turned into the negative one. I criticise everything, I assume the worst of people, and I do not really enjoy anything any more. Can I come back from this?

My reaction is always bigger than whatever set it off. Someone leaves a cupboard door open and I am furious. I think it is coming from somewhere else and I cannot find where.

I lost it at someone yesterday and said things I cannot unsay. They are being polite with me now and it feels awful. How do I put this right?