Forgiveness

Everyone keeps telling me to forgive, and I am not even sure what the word means. Does forgiving someone mean saying that what they did was fine?

Someone hurt me badly and I know I am meant to forgive them. Nobody has ever told me what that actually looks like day to day.

The wound is still fresh and people are already talking to me about forgiveness. Am I supposed to forgive before I have even finished feeling it?

The person who hurt me has never apologised and does not believe they did anything wrong. How do I forgive someone who is not sorry?

I have said the words, I have prayed about it, and I still feel exactly the same toward them. Have I actually forgiven anything?

I have forgiven them and I still remember every detail. People say forgive and forget. Am I doing it wrong if I cannot forget?

If I forgive them, does that mean I have to let them back into my life and carry on as though nothing happened?

They apologised and now they want everything back to how it was straight away. I am not there yet, and somehow I am the difficult one.

It is the same person doing the same thing again. How many times am I supposed to forgive before enough is actually enough?

There is a verse that says if I do not forgive, God will not forgive me. That frightens me, because some days I genuinely cannot do it.

I have gone bitter about something that happened, and I can hear it now in how I talk about people. I do not like who I am becoming.

I think I have dealt with this, and then a name or a memory comes up and the resentment is right there again. How do I actually get free?

I am carrying things from how I was raised, and people tell me I need to forgive my parents. I cannot even work out where to start.

My parent will not admit that anything ever happened, and they have not changed at all. How am I supposed to forgive that?

The person I needed to forgive died before any of it was resolved. There is no conversation left to have and I am stuck holding it.

There is something I did years ago that I still replay at night. Everyone else has moved on and I cannot seem to put it down.

I made choices back when I honestly did not know any better, and I still hold them against myself. How do I stop?

I said things in anger that I cannot take back, and I still hear them in my own voice. How do I forgive myself for that?

People talk about forgiving yourself. Is that even a real thing, or is it just something we say to make each other feel better?

I look back at years I wasted and choices I cannot undo, and the regret sits on me constantly. What am I meant to do with that?

There is someone I wronged badly years ago and I still want to say sorry. Is it too late to bring it up now?

There is something in my past my partner does not know about. Does being honest mean I have to tell them, or would that just be to make myself feel better?

I have confessed this to God plenty of times. Is that enough, or do I actually need to say it out loud to another person?

I feel guilty most of the time and I usually cannot name what about. It is like background noise. Is that God convicting me or something else?

Something went badly wrong in my life not long after I did something I am ashamed of, and I cannot stop thinking that God is punishing me.

I believe I am forgiven, and I am still living every day with the damage I caused. Why did the consequences not lift along with the guilt?

When something goes wrong my first instinct is to work out whose fault it is, and it is never mine. I can see myself doing it and I still do it.

I have become someone who judges everybody. It happens in my head before I have even spoken to a person, and it is not who I want to be.